I never thought I would ever see myself reading the bible, because I’m a stand on my own feet sort of guy, and have never seen a need to have God in my life.
What has dramatically changed my attitude is that we lost and gained a lot of friends during covid. It was a very divisive time here in NZ.
With all the covid hysteria been pumped out 24/7 by the media and the government, we and our new found friends held the line and refused to comply with vaccinations/mandates, and all that other dumb stuff. We also had lots of parties together (and still do).
Anyhow, the majority of our new friends are quite religious, and I wonder if this is the reason they saw all the covid hype for what it was (hysterical rubbish).
Perhaps they had an anchor that held them firm, when just about everyone else seemed to have lost their minds. So on that basis, the reading continues….
One thing I find with female narcissists is that they never really seem to go away, they sit in the shadows watching, waiting for that ‘opportunity’. I say this from experience because I’ve had one silently stalk me for 35 years.
To understand why they do this is easy, once you understand how narcissism works -They think they can exploit you, fail, and then try to get ‘even’. They end up in the impossible position of trying to get you to chase them when your not interested, which frustrates the hell out of them. They just have to ‘win’ somehow in their own minds.
The trick is not to react to them, and not get pulled into ‘the game’.
Below is how it’s played out with the most recent stalker.
First is the friendly, well groomed version obviously waiting for you to turn up like we were on a date or something.
I’m just thinking WTF? who are you? and how did this happen?
Second is several attempts at a passive / aggressive ‘talk to me or else’ facial expressions / dry begging / power play. (Thats a classic sign of a narcissist right there).
Third is the really placid friendly smile with lots of serenity and other happy things. Yeah, thats just an act and I saw the real you back in second.
Forth is where they ‘copy’ your personality as if we are a match made in heaven -another fake act.
Fifth, They setup various ‘chance ‘ encounters. I’m very adept at detecting these and I surreptitiously sabotage it everytime.
Unfortunately, a byproduct of that strategy is that they think it was just bad luck or something and they try again later.
Sixth, It became obvious to bystanders whats going on and what I’m doing, at which point it looks like I’ve won, because saving face means everything to these people.
The trick is to maintain studied neutrality and give them nothing to play with.
To this day, I’ve never spoken to her.
Some notes-
I dealt with this through the companies EAP (Employee Assistance Program), management and told no one else. I did it this way because I didn’t want to humiliate or shame her. I think it’s quietly known about throughout the company, because people talk, even when they shouldn’t.
There’s never been any feedback from the company itself, the problem evaporated and became a lot less aggressive. (thats when the charm offensive started)
To those who haven’t read my earlier posts, and ask ‘isn’t this a great compliment / opportunity’?
NO, I never asked for this, and it’s well known I am married with several kids, which sort of tells you just how unethical this person is.
For the last few weeks, we’ve been very struck with the thirst for beauty throughout our society. We are suffering under a deliberate ‘uglification’ of our world, and this has significant repercussions for our day-to-day and our futures.
Join us as we discuss beauty and its role in our lives.
Now that the dust has settled and the gaslighting has stopped, we can see very clearly just how comical the whole saga was.
First, some background…
An openly lesbian person completes a teaching degree in the UK
She couldn’t get a teaching job, so she joined the British Navy, where they served in what appears to be mostly paper shuffling.
From there she gets a job with the NZ navy, and is given command of a ship.
Visits NZ with her wife, and decides to stay here.
Applies for a job with the NZ navy who decide to rapidly promote her due to DEI idealogy.
The picture below illustrates her personality -somewhat attention seeking and glamour chasing.
The sinking of the HMNZS Manawanui
The ship is running on autopilot (automatic) off the Samoan coast, and is headed towards a reef.
The crew can’t get the ship to change direction because….-it’s on autopilot
Eventually they call the captain up to the bridge
(legally, she should have been on the bridge all this time, because they were close to land)
At 18:17:20, The Captain arrives on the bridge
At 18:17:36 A whole 16 seconds later, the captain calls up ‘AA’ onto the bridge. It turns out that ‘AA’ is the only one on board who really knows how to use the propulsion system.
This underlines her personality, theres a person in the background doing the hard yards, which she takes all the credit for.
At 18:17:59 , the ship runs aground
At 18:19:10 , person ‘AA’ is instructed to fix the problem as they are the only one able on board who understands the propulsion system.
At 18:27:34 , There’s a discussion about taking the boat out of autopilot….
Thats the point when they realise their mistake. The ship is now sinking and the captain starts behaving as if she’s in a movie starring herself, but remember how she trained as a school teacher?
At 18:47:24 , She instructs the crew to abandon ship, but to go to the toilet first, and get some warm clothing.
Like she’s leading a bunch of primary school kids about to hop on a bus.
At 18:48:55 , She repeats the instruction to abandon ship, but get some warm clothing and go to the toilet first.
At 18:50:10 , She says just to get off the ship.
Don’t worry about doing wee’sand poo’s anymore..
Some of the transcripts from the report are as below..
Sourced from the report on the sinking of HMNZS Manawanui
Captain Yvonne Grey has since been court marshalled over the sinking.
In the end, it doesnt say much about the NZ navy does it?, it’s plainly not a place that helps to be the best you can, regardless of who you are.
The problem is not the Captains sexuality in itself, it’s simply that she identifies as that first and formost, and been a competant captain wasn’t high on her list of priorities.
It is interesting how the NZ public were initially gaslit over the sinking, with accusations of homophobia, etc. As you can see from the report, the captains actions are indefensible, and they knew that from day one.
Uncoffined 
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