How I’ve learnt to deal with a Narcissist

I’ve had a female stalker shadowing me for nearly forty years, and I never understood why, or what she really wanted.

I’ve just consistently ignored her since she set out to humiliate me way back in 1986. This was easy to do in the end as she was easy to ignore, once I got over her betrayal.

It’s only now she’s become very brazen and obvious in her actions recently, that I’ve decided to come to terms with what is going on, hence my recent posts on the subject. (Part three has the recent history)

https://uncoffined.com/2025/08/21/when-you-meet-the-wrong-girl-part-three/

From the research I’ve done, it’s now obvious she is a covert narcissist.

I’ve been looking for nicer answers, rather than just ignoring her, but everything I’ve read says to just totally ignore her, least you enable the behaviour. (they are not going to change)

Even advice sourced from the bible says..

1. Don’t waste your time or energy on them 
2. Don’t yield to them
3. Live in peace

https://www.changingus.org/blog/bible-tips-to-deal-with-narcissists

It’s given me some peace of mind to have some answers over this, so now I can go back to writing about ducks, hedges, and other interesting stuff.

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P.S. an article from facebook explains exactly what has been going on all this time.

When you reject or ghost a narcissist first, they will remain obsessed with you for years despite you removing access, having other partners, or even if they have a partner (in fact, many narcissists and psychopaths get bored in relationships and always track people from their past, even people they barely had anything with). They will stalk you in different ways to try to maintain control all while having wives and girlfriends.

But this does not work when the target of their obsession does not care about them and never did in the first place. It just reinforces how bizarre their behavior is. You cannot manufacture a love triangle when no one is competing for you and actively wants to stay away from you. The narcissist’s attempts to re-establish contact or manipulate you into re-engaging will be met with indifference, further fueling their frustration.

The key to neutralizing a narcissist’s obsession is to maintain your detachment and prioritize your own emotional well-being. By not reacting or engaging with their tactics, you’re taking away their power and control. Focus on your own life, interests, and relationships, and don’t let the narcissist’s behavior dictate your emotions or actions. Remember, their obsession is not about you; it’s about their own need for validation and control. By staying detached and uncaring, you’re rendering their tactics ineffective.

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